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WEDDING BELLS AHEADl?! Aaahhh! Spring is in the air. The time when a young man's fancy turns to love and she falls off to sleep with visions of wedding bells joyously ringing... Yes I have looked out of my window lately. And I agree, it is still winter! But if a wedding is in your plans for this spring, there is something you should be doing now. A sobering statistic is that 65% of children born this year will be living with just one of their parents before the age of 18. The major reason for this is the alarmingly increased divorce rate. Sadly, it is the children who suffer most from the breakdown of marriages. A "Marriage Preparation" course may be just the ounce of prevention needed, to protect, parents and future children, from requiring a pound of cure. Marriage preparation should include an understanding of the healthy reasons for marriage. One of these reasons is to help fulfill our 'dependency needs'. No man is an island. We have been created as social beings requiring intimate relationships. Ideally, we marry someone with whom we can be open and honest enough to share our hopes,and our fears, in life. Our future spouse should be someone who helps to complete us our helpmate. Marriage can also ‘help to build our self-esteem. Everywhere we turn today, it seems the biggest laughs come from the Don Rickles style tearing down of someone else. That's sad. We all need to have something to feel good about regarding ourselves. Therefore someone who likes us enough to make a marriage committment, can be a constant reinforcement that we are worthwhile as individuals. Marriage then, can provide positive stroking of our oftentimes, badly bruised self-esteem. Another healthy reason for marriage is that in your potential partner you see the "Ideal Mate". Based on your culture, background, personality, etc., you have this dream man/woman in your minds. It may be a man able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, in order to .bring you flowers and chocolates. And/or a considerate chap, willing to wade through a January snow bank, to bring you Contact C and Kleenex. To each their own. Your spouse should have some of the qualities, or characteristics, you feel make for the perfect partner. ##f .19" EASTER BASKETS - ”##J/JVJVMJVWfl'fiJrflfl/‘Wflflflwxffif 0 ~ MANUFACTURERS OF CHOICE CANADIAN CHEDDAR CHEESE To Order - Phone 272-2107 FRESH CURD 0n the odd days (1,3,5,-etc) in March What about the roles each expect of the other in marriage? In your future spouse, do you see someone who shares a common attitude regarding the role you anticipate them to fill? Some men desire a wife who will affectionately greet them at the door of a well-kept home, surrounded by his children. Others expect a business partner, equally committed to the pursuit of material gain. Whatever your expectations are, these should be clearly understood and compatible with your spouse-to-be. Marriage can provide a role for us to fulfill. This can be another of our needs met, in a healthy way. People also marry to express their values in life. What are those things that you consider important in life? Do you and your future spouse have the same priorities in life e.g. golf or church Sunday mornings? family or friends? fidelity or ?? Marriage can be an opportunity to bring your values into a long term relationship. In other words, marriage to the right person can be an expression of "This is who I am! This is what I believe in! And together we stand for these values in life!" ... whatever they may be. Finally, often we see ourselves subconsciously or otherwise, as lacking in a particular area. Sometimes the 'quiet, timid person' marries the 'talkative center of attention' just because they may feel inadequate and unhappy about themselves. Marriage between extreme opposites may spell disaster, however. For minor differences, marriage can provide a proper balance. The qualities of one partner may campliment an area of weakness in the other. One who is impulsive by nature may be attracted to and benefit from, one who is more careful. By way of illustration, the story goes something like this, "One night as the couple climbed the stairs to retire, the husband went to recheck the lock on the door. His careful concern aggravated his wife until she was reminded of something. It was this same character trait that had provided a secure, stable home for her, and their children." Opposites may attract. But the more healthy marriage is where the personality differences enhance or bring out the best in each other. Marriage should, and can, be a lifelong committment. Seriously consider therefore, the benefits of a "Marriage Preparation" course. Don't delay. 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