WHITBY FREE PRESS, WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 12, 1987, PAGE 5 The young of every species have contrived, one way or another, to steal more care and/or physical resources (read: gas money) than their parents every intended to provide. That is, mommy and daddy robin are kept hopping and flying back and forth to the nest with mouthsful of worms, long after they think it is a good idea. You get the idea if you've ever watched parent robins on the day junior gets her flying licence. To hell with in- surance rates, safety or compassion. Mom and dad want to increase her self reliance, if only to gain a little peace and quiet. Junior robin always seems to have mixed feelings about that arrangement. On the one hand he/she will swoop and dart and chatter and fritter and flit from one branch to the next, looking all the time as though she/he can't control him/herself and is having awonderful time. At the same time, she/he always seems to be just trying 'to pick up the pizza and make it back to the nest, where they have 30 channels on cable, and free room and board and a terrific view, before a wing gets crumpled. The metaphor can be applied, without much stretching, to the human condition. Once upon a time, human families attempted to produce as many children as nature could provide, and the children ia.turn provided manual labor to support the parents in their dotage. It was a good arrangement, but the complexity of modern society, and child labor laws, have reduced the average family size. Also, since it now takes a quarter of a century to raise the normal child with not much more than average education puts severe strains on family relation- ships. For example, watch Mom and Dad as a teenage child drives off with the family car for the first time. This is the classic sample of mixed feelings. Dad is wondering, for In flight, from the nest example, about how this can get junior out of the house for six hours and stil be home by ten, fenders <and most of the gas tank) intact. - For parents faing such quandaries, I offer a number of tips, based on more than a quarter of a century of penury. Tip No. 1: Give a child a household chore. One family has arranged things this way: Mother does the laundry, the cooking, the housekeeping, the dusting, the wash, the floors, the shopping and feeds the cat. Father, being liberated, does the lawn, the garbage, washes the car, walks, feeds and washes the dog, builds fences, keeps the computer in ne. The teenager, not to be left out, keeps a firm eye on Muchmusic, lhe sink ful of dirty dishes, and command Durham East: Meet the candidates FROM PAGE 1 about the environment, par- ticularly since plans are underway to locate a new garbage dump somewhere in Durham. But he says no MPP really has a "dictatorial say" under the Environment Assessment Act where such a dump could be located. "There is a process that has to be adhered to arid no elected official has the authority to say no," says Cureatz,-admitting such a dump could likly end up in either Durham West or Durham East. "You just have to get all the data and facts and make an appropriate decision." Cureatz states he was proud of the job opportunities created locally by his party, be they from road construction, the extension of hospitals or the massive Darlington generating station project. "There are over 8,000 employed at Darlington," says Cureatz, ad- ding he would like to see a com- mitment from Ontario Hydro to compensate Newcastle for the responsibility of housing the nuclear facility in their municipality. Underthe Power of Corporation Act, hydro offers a grant- in lieu of taxes to municipalities. At Pickering, this amounts to some $1 million per year, but Cureatz would like to see that figure upped to $8 - $10 million for the Darlington facility. Insisting ev'eryone calls him Sam, Cureatz says he has always prided himself as representing everyone in his constituencv withoutbeing political. "I approach a one-on-one service at my con- stituency office," says Cureatz, "IThat's what it's ail about." Diane Hamre, the Liberal can- didate for Durham East, is the 48- * year-old mother of fouir grown children with twocgrandchildren and another expected soon. She lives with her husband Rod in rural Orono. She has served as a coun- cillorin Newcastle and on regional government for the past seven years, is chairman of Durham's social services department, president of Durham Non-Profit Housing, chairman of Newcastle works department and an active member of some 50 various com- mittees. Hamre admits she is "having a ball" seeking a seat at Queen's Park. "It's good to have challenges, you know," she says, indicating the focal point of her campaign was "people oriented." She says that because her riding is a mix of urban and rural, she has not found one specific issue while knocking on do&s. "The things that affect the people of Ontario are the same concerns of those in Durham East." Hamre indicates such matters as the agricultural industry, environ- ment, sewers and water in Brooklin, hospitals, schools, day care funding and free trade had all been raised. Although the Liberals are leading in the polls, Hamre says that while she is encouraged, she doesn't spend a lot of time taking them seriousiy. "I'm proud of Mr. Peterson's government and want to be a part of it," she says. "You don't intend take shots at anyone, I think my record will stand me in good stead." Hamre feels the question of lan- dfill is not only a problem in Durham but throughout the provin- ce. She says she would like to see the province share, both in time and cost, in the establishment of any new sites so the expense doesn't go directly on the taxpayer as it now does. "We mustalso see that any lan- dfill sites are made environmen- tally safe and both levels of gover- nment must work together to this end," she emphasizes. Hamre feels the government should not Involve itself with a state-run form of automobile in- surance, but at the same time says rates should be fair and equitable for everyone. She was adamant that the Auto Pact not be touched in any free trade talks with the United States. She says environment issues had been ignored by the Conservatives while in power for so many years. Although the Peterson government had begun several programs in the past two years, the "mess" could not be cleaned up overnight, she says. - Answering questions concerning the sale of beer and liquor in cor- ner stores, and Sunday shopping, Hamre says she did not feel either were important issues this time around, but admitted that per- sonally she is against both. Marg Wilbur is representing the New Democratic Party in Durham East. At 48, she and husband Jim have three children, Amea 17, Frances 14 and Tim 12. They have lived in the rural area between Manchester and Utica for 18 years. Coming from a political background, her father Andrew Brewin was MP for the Greenwood riding in Toronto for 17 years. Wilbur is no stranger to polities herself. She is on the provincial executive and federal council of the NDP as well as an executive in the local riding. She ran unsuccessfully in the 1981 and 1985 election in the Durham-York riding. She was for- merly chairman of the Scugog Library Board, a representative on the Durham Region Federation of Agriculture and president of the local ratepayers association and cottagers association. She says that aithough Durham East is a new ridingfor her, due to boundary changes, she is familiar with the territory from living in the Whitby population exceeds 45,800 Whitby's 1986 population was 45,819, according to census data released by Statistics Canada. The population is 24.9 per cent, or 9,121, higher than a'1981 count. The census shows Whitby had 14,628 occupied private dwellings in 1986. Whitby's growth was the eighth- highest in Canada for municipalities with populations of more than 25,000. Nine of the 10 fastest growing municipalities were located in On- tario. Vaughan Township, near Toronto, was the fastest growing with 119 per cent growth since 1981. Cumberland, Ont., near Ottawa, was second fastest at 66.9 per cent. Markham, at 48.8 per cent, was third, and Ajax, at 43.5 per cent, was fourth. Kanata was fifth, Pickering sixth and Brampton seventh. Go-cart stolen from Kartways A go-cart valued at $800, was stolen from a locker at Family Kar- tways on Brock St. N. during the weekend. Police say the lock had been cut off. area for so long. Wilbur says she, too, has found no single issue during her cam- paigning, but that one of her main issues, along with that of her party, is the establishment of a provin- cially-operated insurance scheme. She says such a program could definitely work as it had proved it- self in British Columbia, Manitoba and Saskatchewan, where insuran- ce rates had dropped considerably in some cases. t She says environment issues are of prime concern, not only in the in- dustrialized urban areas, but in the rural areas too. If elected she plans to fight hard to upgrade the pension system to allow people to retire earlier if they wish, thereby creating jobs for younger people. She stresses pen- sion funds must belong to the em- ployees, not to employers such as Conrad Black. Wilbur says she is upset to find there are many elderly women living in poverty and wants something done on a provincial level to address the problem. "This matter also leads to the subject of equal pay for work of equal value," says Wilbur, "and although some work is being done due to the efforts of the NDP a great many more inroads have to be made." She feels day care also needs to be addressed more closely, par- ticularly since more and more women were forced to work outside the home. "And given the plight of farmers today, even farm wives are finding they must seek employment to make ends meet," she states. "With shift workers, there is even a time when day care is required 24 hours a day." Wilbur says she is personally op- posed to Sunday shopping, that there should be one day a week when the family could be together without having to be forced to work. Wilbur feels that Durham East would lose its economic base in a free trade deal with the United States. "If the auto pact is on the table and if import controls are on the table there would be a major negative impact in Durham East," she says. She notes that General Motors, as well as parts suppliers, workers, farmers and small businesses, stand to lose in a free trade deal. Wilbur points out that the NDP's Bob Rae and Ed Broadbent were the ony party leaders stronglyor posed to Prime Minister Maa-ft Mulroney's free trade dealî "I would'take a strong stand on all issues - listening to people and taking their concerns to the tp," Wilbu)r says. As far as the polls are conçerned, Wilbur feels they reflect onl*What people are thinking at the par- ticular time they were taken. "You really just have to wait and see as time goes by," says Wilbur. "But ail the polis show the public is very volatile right now.. .there is no way of predicting what the end results might be. 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A child of family I know kept up his family chores for years after he was living on his own. Each week, without fail, he would return to the family nest and deftly load up extra meals, leftovers, special surprises (mothers can be sps) and any appliances or furniture father had not nailed down. They said it was like being visited each week by a self- propeiled garage sale. It should be noted that this is an ideal way to clean the house of furniture and other debris the children trashed while growing up. Just a word of caution, however: it is essential that you let the process continue its natural course before starting out to buy quality replacements. Otherwise, guess which chesterfield suite mom and dad get stuck with? Tip No. 3: Don't become too involved emotionally with your children. Remember, they are at bést tax advan- tages, no more. Begin to think of them as human beings, as individuals with emotions annd hopes and realms, and next thing you know, Flap! Flap! You're out there night and day, flapping your wings, coming home at all hours with your mouth full of worms. 1