Do you have news about community events and other happenings that you want to share with Waterloo Chronicle readers? If so, call Deb Crandall by phone at 886â€"2830, by eâ€"mail at editor@waterlooâ€"chronicle.com, or by fax at 886â€"9383 communities La Costa Restaurants in Kitchener, London, Harmilton and Oakville will be hosting their first Christmas Kids Luncheons for underprivileged chil dren next Sunday. From noon until 3 p.m., children at the restaurants will be treated to lunch, a visit from Santa Claus, and Christmas presents. To help make the day a success, staff at all four locations have volunteered their time to cook and serve their special guests. A bank account has been set up at Canada Trust for anyone wishing to donate funds for the purchase of gifts for the children. Donations can be made to account number 15â€"525359 at any Canada Trust branch. Any excess toys will be distribâ€" uted to Family an& Children‘s Services in all four ; LUFEsSTYLES Liessen, a minuster at First Mennonite Church. Eppâ€" Tiessen and his wife Esther lost their eightâ€"yearâ€"old son Timothy to cancer two years ago just before Chnstmas. The "userâ€"fmnendly" worship service is designed for everyone, including those who, for whatever reason, do not have a church home unemployed, or are alone. For that reason, Knox Presbyterian Church in Waterioo is hosting a comâ€" munity Longest Night service, Dec. 21 beginning at 7 30 p.m ThcscmcemllbchvenbyMDmEpp Christmas is a joyful time for many, but for some it is a time of sadness and sorry, especially those who Waterioo Regional Heart Save is looking for a litâ€" tle help from "Santa" this holiday season. When its current lease expires at the end of next March, the organization hopes to secure a more modest and effiâ€" cient 1,500â€" to 2,000â€"squareâ€"foot space suitable for training, office work and storage. If you know of a less expensive accommodation for the Kiwanis/WRHS Training Centre, call 749â€"8420. Since 1983, Heart Save has offered a wide selection of CPR and first aid training and public education programs. Season‘s Greetings from the staff at recently divorced loved recently "These are qualities that I‘m suggesting probably have a foundation in human nature and are very simple qualities," Schaeffer says "They‘re probably qualities we perhaps have forgotten or, if we haven‘t forgotten, perhaps are not bringing to the fore as much as we might To further develop these five qualities of human character, people must first overcome three "bad habits" which Schaeffer believes charâ€" acterize many of today‘s social interactions â€" domination, greed and selfâ€"righteousness Schaeffer says the key to open communicaâ€" - tion, which allows one to not only understand what another person says but also what another Dr. Josey person means, is the development of five "qualâ€" ities of human character" â€" genuine interest in other human beings acknowledgment of others, as opposed to acceptance or tolerance deep empathy, as distinguished from sympathy or compassion, altru ism, or a genuine desire to see others lead rich and fulfilling lives, and finally, trust of others and worthiness of others‘ trust The Stome People: Living Together in a Different World outlines a program Schaeffer developed after some three decades of work in the fields of scientific research, education (18 years as a proâ€" fessor of anthropology), and communication consulting. Schaeffer â€" who, in his role as a consultant on interpersonal communication, has held workshops for groups such as the University of Victoria Institute for Dispute Resolution the Antiâ€"Racism and Race Relations Task Force of the University of Guelph, and the City of Kitchâ€" ener â€" has recently published a book that shows readers that it is possible to reach harmo nious conclusions without hostlity through open communication "They all come, from my point of view from Deborah Crandall misuse of power," Schaeffer says. "I believe very strongly in per Chromicle Staff power, and believe the most destructive force in our society is j pt:rsmral power. 1 have to have M .flm power over mys reakdown in communication is the root of many a conflict and _ the world of communication, but 1 can never want to or expect to B confrontation, from domestic disputes to racial tensions to power over you in that world. ; armed combat Domination, to me, is simply the desire to have illegstimate pr But Waterloo author/communication consultant Dr Joseph Schaefler _ over what people do as distinguished from legitimate authority G believes that conflict can not only be resolved but also avoided if peoâ€" _ is simply a desire to have illegitimate power over whas other pe ple learn to interact more creatively with one have. And selfâ€"righteousness, whic) 1 cons another d!womofdmulrubadhzhu,m. Schaeffer â€" who, in his role as a consultant 7 pervasive in this society, is the desire to cor on interpersonal communication, has held , what other people know." ue e e Huany F a The Stone People Waterloo author offers tools for creative communication T is iesns e e d e a misunderstanding and "~579.9729 Dr. Joseph Schaeffer * The Region‘s first choice for fitmess since 1985 © Guelph area callers can reach us at THERE‘S ONLY ONE! 842 Victoria St. N. Kitchener locally at Word Worth Books (;lrlKl‘lgï¬St;u-(; Waterloo education program, all of which he‘ll offer to individuals, on trons, businesses, institutions and schools. For further information about the Forsyth Centre for Human opment, call 742â€"6418, or eâ€"mail schaeffer@golden ors education program towards each other." Schaeffer and his wife Nancy Leach Schaeffer together have e hshed the Forsyth Centre for Human Development in Waterloo. T Leach Schaceffer, a trained body therapist and psychotherapist, will tinue her individual therapy and relationship counselling. while d oping a sixâ€"week stress management program and an cight program for partners. Schaeffer is currently developing twoâ€" and i day workshops and an extensive "community and communicat ment, call 742â€"6418, or eâ€"mail schaeffer@golden.org The Stone People: Living Together in a Different World is av. i toanals ~~nosoeanâ€"eepanierrr world. â€" O "There are people, through.oul this countr least, who 1 find are sort of on to this same ki of thing," Schaefler Says. "rh(yw had enoll of it. They‘re tired of fighting. Ther« are pare who are tired of fighting with their children vice versa, teachers who have had it with rack or homophobia or sexism in the classroom, be their‘s towards the students and the studen U1 course, not every person in possessig either of the three bad habits is going to rea change by adopting the five qualities of hus character. Not everybody wants 1o change ; live a more humane life together But crea communication, Schaeffer says is in the wig and he‘s finding more and more peopic who tiring of a desire to control others and art ¢ covering the joys of living together in a diffen L)+ 182 Weber St. (Just south of Ur All Vikings ing that 2:39 So from al Raiders, teact have a safe and (and as always great) and mar activities are pl ing contest is busy time in t The Grade tory classes today to the Museum anc Times for dinn fun time. Th exciting things trate on the our two wee! holidays. For news is that ( left until our two days left from us to of you for L0