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a w _~~> “’,h "House of x e onz 7 cez And there‘s nothing reasonable about falling in love; there lies the tender trap. We had better start reasoning after it happens, if we know what is good for us. Geoff Fellows operates the Human Resource Development Institute, P.O. Box 642, Cambridge NIR 5W1, providing effectiveness training for business and industry. Mothers who w;rry about their: ;n; bei 26 ot 30 should realize what they | compliment them on their good judgment 1 io nenete n ons This is easily proved by the fact that marriage is most often a matter of simple geography. If there is only one person in the world for us, isn‘t it amazing that by sheer coincidence, that person is usually found in the community in which we are living? 1 B Ciinennniteeth e anliriet whaliliriccman ies :Altein males. It takes so much preparation to achieve the necessary earning power, that the average age of marriage for a single wageâ€"earner has gone up considerably Te 1 * * I e es The tragic cases are those of young men (as I mentioned last week) who gave up their dreams of a career in order to get married, After the bloom of giddy romance has faded and settled down into a dayâ€"toâ€"day existence, they begin to resent their hasty action 1°C 6°° ans!y with ourseives when we find we have made a serious mistake, but, too often, we vent that anger upon the person for whom the mistake was made. The experts try to point out that the people who believe that there is only one person in the world for them are quite mistaken. This may seem true after years of successful marmage, But it is not true before marriage. m uea W a I i6 ‘onlne" idns oi ilormin ic en allinbtit it Biviakwainllacbdbaminhiani id Biattic onA â€" L0 Dr. Fromme says that the importance of economic security, plus the increasing division of labour or specialization in society, have led to a natural postponement of marriage in Loo n o e ce ay d ue C They begin to compare the job at which they are working to the career they‘d planned for so very long, and it is easy to begin to blame. If he lets his feeling of frustration grow, and it seems to grow in these situations, it increases the tensions in the home. Anger begins to flare up more often and lasts longer. Before long he may find himself not only without the career of his choice, but without the wife that he had chucked the whole thing to marry. We get angry with ourselves when we find we have made a serious mistake, but, too often, we vent that anger upon the person for whom the mistake was made. If a man is able to finance a marriage at 25, there is no reason why he shouldn‘t marry a woman older than he is, any more than there is a reasom why a woman should not marry a man five years her senior But women have come to regard this matter of age difference very semously. Perhaps it is because they mature earlier. A girl of 18 might find going out with a boy of her age a bit of a drag. As a result she prefers to date someone older than she is and comes to look upon this as a natural state of affairs, at any age. Although women feel it is important to marry a man older than they are, there is really no good reason why this should be necessary, except for this economic factor. Traditionally, a man must wait until he is financially able to support a wife and family, and the time this takes is getting longer; so much so, that often both parties go to work to finance the marriage Since 1974 According to Dr. Allan Fromme, almost four out of every five women are married by the time they are 29. It takes men five years longer to do so; or, four out of every five men marry by the time they reach 34, which is quite a difference. It seems that it has become traditional in our society for women to regard it as important that their husbands be older than they are. It‘s simply a matter of custom based on hard economic facts. There‘s nothing reasonable about falling in love Whirlpools, Saunas _Spas, Hot Tubs sopé being still unmarried at are up against and Hardy Harts participant Norm Freund of Kitchener works out on a rowing machine during one of the program‘s exercise sessions. Deborsh Crandall photo surgery can be frightening and confusing. Questions arise such as ‘How much activity is too much? and ‘When will I be able to lead a normal life again®‘. Sufferers of angina deal with the same Concerns. But thanks to a program operâ€" ated by several local health care professionals, cardiac patients can, through monitored exercise programs, know their limitations, strenghten their endurance, and live with confidence and reassurâ€" Chronicle Staff It would be somewhat of an understatement to say that recovâ€" ering from a heart attack or heart surgery is difficult. For cardiac patients, the weeks that follow a heart attack or heart "In 1979, the research grant ended, but we had 30 people who* were dependent or enjoying the services of the program," says Jacqueline Sharratt. "So about 10 of the people involved, includâ€" ing, Mike Sharratt, myself and Dr. Ron Fowlis (a local cardioloâ€" of the centre for applied health research at the University of Waterloo, was approached to sét up the program. And his wife, Jacqueline Sharratt, M.Sc., came on board to assist with the proâ€" "Hardy Harts", a program ofâ€" fered by the Waterloo Regional Cardiac Rehabilitation Foundaâ€" tion, began in 1975 as a fourâ€"year research project by the Ministry of Health to look at the effects of exercise on heart disease. Mike Sharratt, Ph.D., director House o: Cedar 210 Regina St. N., Waterloo 885â€"1711 THE AREA‘s LARGEST shownoom 41 Models on Display From $659 NOW ON SALE! Because the exercise sessions are carefully monitored by a cardiologist and kineseology stu dents from the University of Waterloo (who volunteers their time), participants can safely test their levels of endurance. Each "Now what they need to know is how to organize their day and how to go about their activities in a safe way. They need to develop a framework or guideline for how much is too much," Sharratt says "At that stage of the program, people are starting to train and increase their fitmess levels, so that they can do their usual activites." The third stage of recovery begins when the heart muscle has healed, Sharratt says. The pa tient has usually returned to work and is resuming daily rouâ€" tine and activities. For the cardiac patient at this stage, Hardy Harts offers very moderate exercise which enables the patient to understand his or her limitations. And discussions provide the patient with reassurâ€" ance. "This is the point at which people are at home, but now are confused. They may forget what they were told at the hospital, worry about doing the wrong thing," Sharratt says. "They‘re certainly not going to run to the doctor every week, but they have lots of anxieties; they‘re depress ed and very scared. So this is the point where we (Hardy Harts) can be very effective." The second stage begins shortly after hospital discharge and lasts fo; r approximately eight weeks. The first stage of rehabilitation usually takes place in the hospiâ€" tal and involves getting out of bed for the first time, walking up and down halls and tackling stairs ‘"There‘s no graduation â€" we don‘t kick people out, so to speak," Sharratt says. "But there are different stages (of the proâ€" gram and rehabilitation)." gist) got together and formed the Cardiac Rehab Foundation, incor. porated, and registered as a charâ€" itable organization." Ever since, two evenings each week, cardiac patients in Kitchâ€" enerâ€"Waterloo have attended exâ€" ercise sessions at the Hardy Harts program, held in the sudiâ€" torium _ at Kitchenerâ€"Waterloo Hospital. Participants take part in exer. cise offered at various levels, depending on the his or her stage of recovery or level of endurance, Some participate in the program while in the rehabilitation stage, others stay with the program for (Continued on page A11)