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They may have more strikes against the. the second time around but according to WLU family sociologist Dr. John Peters,peopiewhomarry 'orth-dtimeare00ttereeatt more likely to stay together than ttrat-ttme newlyweds. Nit "We must assure the public and people who are going thmqtt divorce that there are many, many people who have remarried and are satisfied," said Peters. Second marriages, are fraught with problems that do not exist In the first marriage, he explained. Not only are there harmtul scars of the past to overcome, but the divorced rematch» an tax-spouse and children to worry about. 7 Children bring a particular set of problems to the second manila, according to Peters, including their custody. the visiting rights 01 the ex-spouse and stepehildren. Child support may also put a tinntteial strain on the second marriage as money is being channelled out of thermally to sugport children or partners from a previous marriage. "They know What they want from the marriage and if they dopjtarget it,_tltey are going to get out,” he said. “This has the potential to cause strain in the marriage because the partners have a different outlook and different ways of reacting to problems,:' he explained. - - - titers describes the person who niarrtes for a secoid time as very goal-oriented, a fact that may cause strain, in the mega! marriage. Many problems encountered in the second marriage may result fronhpeople rushing too quickly from a divorce into another marriage and thereby repeating the same mistakes, said Peters. Statistics show that most people remarry within ttl months of their divorce, often to partners of very different social or educational backgrounds and great age differences are common, too. 'r. _ WI.“ sociologist so}: yoo "m ls second time' better? Lauren Munn, ieho was responsible for organizing I series of seminars on Women and Aging for the K-W Status of Women this fall, presented a list of recommendations to the task force. {1 Fundamental to all of the proposals made in the brief is the need for life planning for young women "to get an overview of how things actually are," said Munn. Mann feels that this should be a required part of the.high school curriculum. particularly for young girls, to WISE then; to plan their lives and future careers. The tumrily.iver-atter View of marriage so prevalent in our society is a myth, she explained. Women who, have tried living out the myth find that after 20 years of mrrllge when their children are grown they must decide what to do with the rest of their lives. The K-W Status of Women organization is committed to improving the lot of the poorest of all Canadians - single elderly women. To facilitate this process. the group submitted a brief to the NDP Task Force on Aging during, a recent public hearing in Hamilton. The task force. sponsored by the Participation of Women Committee of the provincial NDP and the federal N DP parties was established to gather information about the concerns of older women. Public hearings have been held throughout Canada from June until December of this year and the group's final report to be made next year is expected to serve " a guide for future policies to Improve the situation of older women in Canada. Pat Arbuckle Chronicle staff Peters recominenits a period of intréspection or psychologi- “Women thou“ look at marriage " a Greer but only K-w Status of Women zero in on concerns of aging women In her report, Munn also outlined the need for an information booklet to be prepared and distributed to older women which would serve as a guide to the organizations and services available in the community to assist single, elderly women. a shori-term one, not a life-long commitment," she Also among the recommendations listed in the brief was a call for a women's centre where women can gather and share their concerns. The reeertt,Women and Aging series‘spotlighted the need for women to get together and talk, according to Munn. The brief also, included proposals to raise the Guaranteed Income Supplement at least to the poverty line and to eliminate mandatory retirement at 85. Suggested changes to current pension plans were also outlined. These recommendations were drawn from recent two-day workshop on Women and Pensions which was Jointly sponsored by the KW Sta‘tus of Women, Community Resources tor Women, Rockway Gardens Senior Citizens Centre and the Waterloo Adult Recreation Centre. Mayiing Stubbs, chairman of the new Status of Women. feels there are two factors which contribute to the chronic poverty of older women. Women's traditional role as a homemaker has required her to take time out trom the work force to raise children. During this time she earns no pension-credits. In the event that the marriage ends either through divorce or the death of a spouse, the woman finds herself with no pension. ' Peters oiiso feels it is important for marriage partners to achieve a balance in their marriage between togetherness and independence. For those who are considering a second try at marriage, Peters has a number of suggestions to improve the chances of success. Marriage counselling should be seriously considered before the marriage to give the couple direction and assistance with potential problems. he said. Even so, statistics show that a greater percentage of second marriages are lasting and Peters feels that the determination of the individual to make the second marriage work and the willingness to work at it are factors in the success of second marriages. "Doing things together ind not living separate lives is important as well as allowing for each person's indepen- dence," he said. "There are times when a person should be alone.” eummuuawmmcuwmm WW. thAprr-a-.tutimtrrtareutiteatsd his contribution to its Motion. . ' 'fGethttt Into marriage ”new, they haven't worked _ttttttsetttisttstheyesmidhaveieamedftomthettrst man-tinge," he and. Why do people continue _trying to make a successful mimosa evenoflerjheyjuve egperlepced tenure? “The faulty idea is that they expect dint this is guaranteed in marriage and it la not." he said. Peters explained that divorced people are not against the institution of marriage. just the sttetelfte partner they had in the first marriage. _ “What they are saying is 'l can make it. i just didn't have the right partner to make it the first time," he said. Moot people marry and keep marrying because they want "intimacy and closeness. someone who is dependable and who_yiu_cn_re noon; ttem,", in Peter's opinion. In the past anyone could get help by call- According to Marg van Vliet, Executive Coordinator. "the agency has to cut some of its services; because of limited funds". Planned Parenthood Waterloo Region an- nounced that the , 24 hour answering service will be discontinued on December 3tst, 1982. to right) Jet! Livingstone, Terry Hoch and Dave Norster delivered a new couch to the Kitchener family crisis shelter. The shelter receives many donations of toys, canned goods and furniture during the Christmas season, according to Kim Decker (right) executive director of Anselmo House. Anselma House received an early Christmas present last week when members of the Grand River Kinsmen Club (left Planned Parenthood forced to cut services _ mm W. Ttl.ttoAv.tWlet at. ".8---Pa= 3 "We Nan to look at the impact on women of the different reforms and make recommendations," ex- plained Stubhs. The committee's response to the green paper will be presented to the government in January. Any persons Interested in participating in the study should contact ft KW Status of Women at Box 915. Waterloo or call 45-1558. » The fact that women earn only so per cent of the wages of male workers also contributes to poverty among older women, explained Stubbs, since they are destined to receive smaller pension benefits as a result. The group recommended legislation to guarantee equal pay for work of equal value and suggested that provisions be made in current pension plans to allow women to transfer pension credits from one job to an- The KW Status of Women is currently torminia committee to study the federal government's green paper onesioit reforms released earlier this month. "Women should not be penalized if something hagpeng to the marriage," said Stubbs. A The K-W Status of Women would like to see homemakers included In the Canada Pension Plan and they also recommended in their brief to the task force that pension credits be shared equllly when a couple divorce. "Women are doing work in the home and there should be some automatic system whereby they are building up pension credits in their own right and not depending on the goodwill of their husbands to do it for them," said Stubbs. ing Planned Parent- hood anytime, or day'ot the week. It is hoped that the reduction of telephone service will only be on a temporary basis. Telephone calls will be answered when vol- unteers and staff are in the office. The ageney's office at 119 King Street is present- ly offering counselling Dr. John Peters There will be no tele- phone service from January I until the office re-opens on Jan- uary 4 at noon. Individ- uals needing informa- tion could call K-W Hospital emergency or the HELP line. services on Tuesday from noon to 8:00 p.m., Thursday from noon until 6:00 p.m., on Sat- urday from 11:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. MIMI.”