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(ti' TOM RE PAGE q - “ATERLOO CHRMICLE. WEDNESDAY. JUNE 2. in , Mi y f , _ éoqafififl 1'iiiv'1c1 ,i,ii,,ii'ij,iii,,i',;j" For Woman And Man KING CENTRE - DOWNTOWN KITCHENER PERMS & HIGHLIGHTS SAVE 50% OFF am and"! BABY DAYS 2 -tyx1ty 2- 5x7 16- 2x3 JUNE SPECIAL? WATERLOO SQUARE STANLEY PARK MALI. -tt.831br3ikt_, W - - ,391-71 " Special Wer avaflélile (170.232 locations: mucous.“ cacao-m“ Solon ore BOUTIQUG (Cut Not Included) Lmttr 5mm] Offer also valao at our iocatnon in CONESTOGA MALL For Women Only 886-502 0 Please Bang Thus Mutation With you lect one dlscount coupon per Demon not valad Wlth membewmlp card or other discounts Otter Expores June 12 _ '«m 576-3030 " DECORATING CENTRE 382 KING ST. N. WATERLOO NEW PHONE NO. 885-3200 ms WEEKDAYS 95:30 FRIDAY " SATURDAY 95:30 o-L-,,-,,,,-: (so1j1(CiiC,,,. Neale H. Tayler. president of Wilfrid Laurier University (WLU). was named president emeritus at the university's spring convocation Sunday at the Kitchener Memori- al Auditorium. He re- tires in July. Tayler. president of the university since 1978 and a faculty member since 1962. is only the second presi- dent in the university's "People who have encountered a life crisis have emotions which fluctuate just like the rest of us: In fact, they seem to re- spond to such experi- ences with a variety oi emotional reactions - sometimes anger, sometimes depression. sometimes even happi- ness - in the s)me bad advice about how they should be dealing with certain traumatic events in their lives ... the death of a spouse. or of a child. or being raped. or having a leg amputated. And they've been getting it from people who should know better ... thera- pists, ciergymen, nurses and family friends. One unhelpful piece of advice stems from the theory that most people can expect to respond to a life crisis through an orderly series of emotional re actions. or stages - you might, for in» stance, have heard that the dying are supposed to respond to the news of their fatal illness first with denial, then anger. then depression and finally acceptance. Another mistaken be- lief is that in time all bad feelings will go away and people will get over their negative experiences. Neither is true, Dr. Silver says. According to a Unl- versity of Waterloo psychologist, Dr. Rox- ane Silver, people have 31mm noes with a variety oi permanently paralyzed with tragedy" area will Dr. Silver has been motional reactions - in accidents think back help both victims and involved in a number of ometimes anger, to the things they were outsiders understand, research progra ms ometimes depression. able to do before their that reactions vary and directed at “coping ometimes even hitppi- injuries. perhaps 30 to that adjustment can with stressful life ess - in the s)me 40 years earlier and take a long time. even events." - I Tayler named president emeritus THEROUTETO BlCitliiASEDSAlldiiS IiliAYLEAD00't0F After u m'rarw69ete moms (New; easing and u 'trsrxtrrS mark-'5 D who L amww mm wood some new .0 C on <1!"va not Damn I s '?rtxyt might” Have you new _ of expomno? It S (Men one ot We mos! "Newbie-(l "W15 ot uncreosng sales and moms t6t smott trosartesseS N 0.: Wed I? WV mot u Ft & mm a Cal! 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Another study found that persons who were permanently paralyzed in accidents think back to the things they were able to do betore their injuries, perhaps 30 to 40 years earlier and She says. for exam- ple, it is quite common for outsiders to encour- age the recently wi- dowed to consider re- marriage soon after their gpouse's death; women with breast cancer are encouraged to continue as usual with their daily aetivi- ties after they have had a breast removed. Parents who have lost a newborn infant are often reminded by well-meaning friends that they are still young and can always have another child. However. popular theories and resultant advice seem to persist. According to Dr. Silver: "Rather than being seen as helpful, relatives, doctors and friends, by reflecting these theories in their attitudes, can further hurt the victim of trag- edy." life and getting over things quickly. Dr. Silver says: “Studies have turned up some evidence that definite. ly does not support the quick recovery theory for a large minority of day." . _ At' totttettirsg on with Honorary doctor of laws were conferred upon Robert A. Will, son, chairman and chief executive officer of the Northland Bank of Calgary and upon always firm. He knew where he wanted the institution to go and led it there. He has earned the admiration and gratitude of the entire Wilfrid Laurier Uni- versity community." The victims them, selves have often been "outsiders" and ac cording to Dr. Silver, often have pre-con- ceived expectations as to what their reactions are "supposed" to be. Thus. they add stress to the stress they are already experiencing. Dr. Silver hopes her studies in the "coping with tragedy" area will help both victims and outsiders understand that reactions vary and that adjustment can take a long time. even i'ii1y:'?i'iii "Outsiders, not knowing what to say" or confused by victims', reactions. may ' con- sciously or uncon- sciously avoid them. The distressed, sensing rejection from others. may even feel they are going crazy because they are not behaving in the 'right' way," says Dr. Silver. their lives. "Even am We who appear to have recovered from a trag- ie experience. feelings of depression can emerge yen: later, sometimes set oft by some new event (for example. finding an old photo) ‘whlch causes them to re-live the original trauma," re- ports Dr. Silver. The main problem victims face outside the actual trauma is often the unrealistic expectations held for them by outsiders. This can lead to a break- down in support for the victim just when it might be most needed. 1tNvrTheBeekett ))'iii2,ttlh',i'g',t I'teaity mm” up” EMU E,'LtC55F, use PM!“ 0 Come and moot tho (when q Register your 4, 5 and 6 your old: q Clam boom Sou. " An Excellent Introduction to Music manual-Moo SUNDAY JUNE Trl, Acton from “In! Lite Phone 578-3040 OPEN HOUSE t msmmu _ 4 You on. t:30 pm. 6 Your Old. Y.S0 pm. 6 You Old. &.SO on. tor the arts, science, music. business and econom- ics, social work and theology. Graduate and under- graduate degrees were conferred upon more than 800 students in James t Black of Rex- dale. preside-nt of the Maison Companies Ll.-G0v. Jehn Aird. the university‘s chan, cellar. presided. .am to have heal linched before it really as. She believe: it would be beat for all involved to learn to accept any or all emotions as natu- ral. An open accep- tance of emotions might prevent added stress. according to Dr. Silver. not only for the victim, but also for the outsider. “Such groups can provide a setting where victims can communi, cate openly and honest- ly about their prob- lems," she says. "They offer advice and sug- gestions. and perhaps most importantly, they offer an opportunity for the distressed to learn their problems are not uhique - that they are not alone." Dr. Silver thinks joining "support groups" can be helpful. These are groups of people who have gone through similar experi- ences; for example. a group of parents who have lost an infant through a sudden and unexplainable cause - called Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). She feels such groups may be more helpful for an individu- al coping with a nega- tive event than the words of best-inten- tioned friends or rela, tives. Mdnum- 801 ml Durant